Quiet people are the most dangerous ones... why? nobody could know when we are angry, upset or what. Sometimes we tend to just suppress whatever emotions we feel, anger or not until we can't hold it back any longer.. so voila - there's your quiet turned violent guy.
Monastery is a different place... different in terms of people around you. Most people who belong to other personality types doesn't really bother to care what's going on inside the mind of some loner, even worse, they make fun of him/her. Real world environment is nowhere near the environment inside a monastery. It's completely different.
Well you are posting this in a community of people that value a lot being alone (some for short periods, some for longer). Dealing with other's reaction (making fun of) to this preference is something that we have learned early and I can say that we can deal with it better than most. Being aggressive or revengeful has nothing to do with how much you socialize. It has only to do with your personal values. Nothing good will come to society by using scapegoat motives.
+Eltjon Metko _Nothing good will come to society by using scapegoat motives_
Agree! The reason I originally posted this here is because of the immediate social implications for introverts. There is a trend after an event such as this to view introverts with suspicion. Combined with an increased trend for online lynch mobs (a different article I read this morning), and I think there is a potential problem.
I am a gun owning introvert. Am I going to be viewed with suspicion by my community?
Mhm, it's not about being a loner. Journalists should take more psychological lessons. What probably could have a real correlation to outbursts of violence would what five factor model calls neuroticism.
And to you +Eltjon Metko , it was just my opinion. And it may or may not change.. I find it amusing how you reacted with what I said about the silent people being the most dangerous ones. Opinions aren't necessary facts... most of the time, opinions are merely based on observation.
Well as for myself, I was a huge loner in high school, and it really bugged the other kids. You wouldn't believe some of the stories...I'd killed people, I was some sort of martial arts master, even I was an undercover cop. I probably didn't even hear most of them.
They almost always leaned toward some sort of violence, so I think that's been around for awhile. Remember To Kill a Mockingbird? Same thing there, the loner, who was actually a pretty nice guy, was supposed to be a sociopath.
+Anthony Barber I've been accused of being an undercover cop now, in my current community. I try to be social, but I have a hard time getting loaded drunk and playing cards until 3 in the morning. Conclusion... I must be an undercover cop... don't invite him to the fun parties...
+Rudy Turcios Thanks.... but I wasn't looking for comfort. I am mearly agreeing with +Anthony Barber ... this labels me as a dangerous outsider. If something goes wrong in the community, where will they look? The quiet loner?
+Eltjon Metko I am not a troll. :) And it's not my fault you don't know how to type my name. Anyways :D You really amuse me, unfortunately I'd have to leave you alone for now because the amusement you give me is not really worth my time. ;)
Nicely put.
Dealing with other's reaction (making fun of) to this preference is something that we have learned early and I can say that we can deal with it better than most. Being aggressive or revengeful has nothing to do with how much you socialize. It has only to do with your personal values. Nothing good will come to society by using scapegoat motives.
Agree! The reason I originally posted this here is because of the immediate social implications for introverts. There is a trend after an event such as this to view introverts with suspicion. Combined with an increased trend for online lynch mobs (a different article I read this morning), and I think there is a potential problem.
I am a gun owning introvert. Am I going to be viewed with suspicion by my community?
They almost always leaned toward some sort of violence, so I think that's been around for awhile. Remember To Kill a Mockingbird? Same thing there, the loner, who was actually a pretty nice guy, was supposed to be a sociopath.